Stories
Beyond our deep, dark caves of candor, a bright and peaceful place we’ll find.
It helps to know we aren’t flying completely solo through our struggles on this Earth; that our histories and feelings aren’t shackled to only us alone, and that we can heal and free ourselves from our past and traumas together by sharing experiences and wisdom with others. I’ve gotten to where I am by reading and applying the stories and information offered to the world by other people who have struggled through similar endeavors. Now I want to do the same for you!
Some of these stories are added just for fun, for my own recollection of them and the lessons I learned along the way. Some will dive deeper into denial, suppression/repression, and other aspects of self-deception. I also offer tidbits of education and resources on the subjects of codependency, Complex PTSD (C-PTSD), cult brainwashing, relationships and more.
I am not a licensed psychologist, just a psychology enthusiast, and I encourage you to do your own added research or seek counseling from a professional when it comes to the area of your mental health.
I simply wish to be one of many keys you use to unlock the doors to healing and personal growth.
It’s my belief that the entire world is better off if each of us does the work required to flourish into better versions of our past selves; to do better than the people who raised us. Together we can quit living under the seemingly cozy darkness of our cloaks of self-deception, and step into a more free and honest future.
Finally, I hope these candid stories inspire you to explore your history and unravel the crooked ways you’ve been deceiving yourself and others. Feel free to leave a comment, send me an email, or connect with me on social media. I’d love to hear about your experiences and breakthroughs!
The Unlocked Door: Curing Myself of You
When I stepped out the door of our duplex and closed it, I thought we were officially done — that by simply leaving I’d be cured of your cancer. It didn’t occur to me that I’d carry all your insidious symptoms with me for years, going in and out of remission, the key to finding the final cure stuck somewhere in the distant future.
Narcissistic Friends and Their Codependent Comrades
Envious rivalry, parasitic entitlement, blameless victimhood, and masked manipulations — it helps to know what to look for to determine if a friend is fatal to our well-being. On the other end it is equally important to learn how we may have contributed to the dysfunction.
Fatal Friends: Give Them an Inch, They Take a Mile
It’s both a freeing and heartbreaking experience to learn that after close to two decades of friendship with someone they weren’t a true friend to begin with. What's been most upsetting about it was how covert she was, the ways I consistently abandoned myself to her implicit needs, how many times I wanted to in-real-life unfriend her but kept letting her in, and how it all finally ended...
Don’t Get Married: Lusting for Love in All the Wrong Places
What is the point? It doesn’t mean anything! People cheat on each other, abuse each other, take advantage of each other; my marriage will likely end in lifelong unhappiness or divorce anyway, and who wants to go through the long, expensive headache of trying to get out?
Fateful Affairs: Cheating on the Cheaters
I used to condemn cheaters and say I would never ever cheat on my partner — I’d leave them before I cheated! Have you ever said something and then went against your word? We’re all a little hypocritical at times, aren’t we. So why did I do it?
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