Candid Stories
Personal essays about complex trauma, coercive control, and the slow, messy work of healing — and the manipulators, scammers, and false gurus who make that work harder. Plus a bit of fun and adventure thrown in.
I'm not a psychologist or a licensed anything. I'm a reader, a researcher, and a person who has been through some things. Think critically, do your own research, and seek professional support when you need it.
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The Key I Forgot: Escaping Was the Easy Part
A personal essay about leaving a five-year emotionally abusive relationship — the morning of the escape, the drive home, and why walking out the door was only the beginning. Part one of two.
Narcissistic Friends and Their Codependent Comrades
I wanted a better friend like I wanted a better mother, and although it was never my job to improve either of them, I felt the need to take on the challenge. Part two of two.
Fatal Friends: Recognizing a Narcissistic Friend After 17 Years
“Have you heard from Autumn lately?" I asked my sister, as we ate dinner across from each other. She sealed her lips and squinted her eyes, nonverbally signaling that I might not like what I was about to hear. (Part one of two.)
Breaking the Cycle: Postpartum Rage and Becoming the Mother I Always Needed
It was 2020, a year that had already taken so much from so many of us, and it was about to take one more thing from me. I didn’t know it then, but that phone call was the last time I'd ever be met with my mother’s silence.
Don't Get Married: Twelve Years and a Pizza Shop
A long-haired, brown-eyed grunge rocker boy with the cutest smile stepped out from his shift, by the adamant request of his manager. Go talk to her and I'll give you the rest of the night off...
The Grim Guest: Life and its Inevitable End
I spent my teenage years researching ways to die and hanging out in cemeteries. My relationship with death has changed considerably since then — but not entirely.
Crafty Coping: A Craft Beer Connoisseur’s Guide to High-Functioning Alcoholism
After a night of too many drinks and an emotional outburst at a bar, I started reading into alcohol abuse and discovered that there is another kind of picture painted for the alcoholic - my "kind."
Fateful Affairs: Cheating on the Cheaters
A candid confession about emotional affairs, self-deception, and the pattern of seeking self-worth from the wrong people — written before I had the language to fully understand it.
Self-Deception: I Spent Years Detecting Lies in Others While Telling Them to Myself
The origin story of The Candid Crook: an honest confession about self-deception, cognitive dissonance, and the lies we tell ourselves — and what happens when you finally stop running from the truth.
Body Language Lie Detection: Pseudoscience That Saved My Life
With determination to confirm I wasn’t crazy, I soon found myself on the floor of Barnes and Noble, picking through books in the psychology section. It was there I discovered a book that seemed to change everything…slowly, but surely.

